Enlightening

A small, enlightening conversation with a slave type:
him:

 It seemed to me that unless I am offering money, most people aren't very interested in being served. At least through D/s relationships there is opportunity for genuine service that seems to be appreciated.

me:

Money is not service! Unless, it is part of a greater dynamic, such as the full blown relationship. If we were living together, you gave me your money, I used it to buy groceries, pay the rent or a house payment, dress myself up pretty, etc. then it would be service and it would be power exchange since it is going back into the whole mix of living together. If we are not living together, and you hear that I can't pay my rent and you volunteer to pay for it, that is a kindness, something beyond the service. If I order it, then I'm just a gold digging tramp.

Mind you, I wouldn't say that is true about lesser things, such as 'Come over, bring a pizza and a movie.' or 'Let's go where you can buy me a flogger so I can use it on you in a nearby alleyway.'
Money does have a way of getting involved. But, there are limits and always should be.

Most people who want to 'serve me', in fact, offer me money for sex or money to not have sex with them and make them feel bad about it. Neither of which is how I wish to live my life. I keep telling them 'This is nothing like fetching me a cup of tea.' It is very disappointing to me.

Though, there is an older gentleman (older than me, younger than you, to be more accurate) who may be visiting me from Ireland who has made no such demands, so I think he might be genuine.

What I want is to live together, as a family (for lack of a better word), sharing our lives together, with the slave/Mistress dynamic. I don't want it to be all gross, painful, or self centered for anyone.

him:

I have always imagined living in a community formed intentionally by  conscious decision by people who may engage each other at different levels including intellectual, emotional, sexual, service, material sharing, spiritual, and any other way that is agreeable to them. Such a community could welcome those who are by nature submissives and slaves as well as those who are naturally dominant.

me:
I'm not interested in polyamory. Sexually, I'm very monogamous and I have to really care for the person in a very special way, or it's just no good. But, communal sort of living can be quite lovely, I have found, so long as someone is in place to have the final say and that someone must be someone relatively sane and with the best interests of all, as individuals and as the group, at heart.

If I have slaves, I will not insist that they do not have sex, but, I will insist that they do not bring women back to my home, that they do not try to have it with me, that they do not go around sexing up the other slaves in front of me, or acting irresponsibly. In other words, you treat the slave home like a family home, and assume it is a family of persons who are respectful of each other and not into incest.