Reality

12/7/2010 9:53:37 AM

So, you want to be a slave as in 'a Roman, Egyptian, Old South American' style slave? First of all, make up your mind which one you want to be, and stop making assumptions about them all being the same.In the majoirty, Egyptian slaves and Roman slaves were fairly alike: they were captured as spoils of war, or they sold themselves into slavery, in the main. These slaves, in the main, were treated with respect, allowed to visit with or even live with family and friends, allowed leisure time if their work was done. These slaves, with startlingly few exceptions, were nothing like the slaves of the Old South variety - they were not chosen by color, they were generally treated with respect, bred to other slaves in the majority and not to their Master as their Masters, in the majority, would never have, for an instant, considered making their children into slaves. And, in general, if a man sold himself into slavery, it was only himself that went. His house, his family, they were not part of the deal.The slaves on the southern plantations, in North America, and the treatment they received, are a great deal of why it is now illegal in North America to own slaves. Many of them were also treated with as much respect as a Master or Mistress was allowed to show them, mind you; but, there were serious laws in place against allowing someone to give them freedom of movement even if it was desired. They were maligned as being evil, stupid, shiftless people who were incapable of caring for themselves. They were treated as so inhuman that many Masters believed that a child created between them and a slave simply was a better slave for having a touch more humanity in it, but, would never acknowledge that this was his flesh and blood. In fact, many of them raped the mother slave, then the daughter slave, then the daughter of that slave, too, on down the line, incestuously breeding more and more slaves for his benefit. This was considered crude behavior, by some, and the sort of people who treated their slaves well did their best to avoid mixing with those sort of Masters who treated their slaves in this manner, but, it was not something they were ever arrested for and no one considered a child that was only half black as having the same rights as a white child, or even half the rights, for being half white. This is something a Roman would never have legally been allowed to do. If a child had Roman parentage, even by half, especially if that half were the father, he had full rights under the law, including the right to buy his freedom (if he even were a slave) and to live as a free man.There are many documented instances of the abuse of slaves, in the old south, that goes beyond anything that any person in their right mind would willingly participate in. Perfectly good slaves bought, worked to the point where their bodies and spirits were completely broken, and then, having found to be no longer useful, slaughtered and fed as meat to the dogs. Fathers bred to their own daughters, noses being chopped off as punishment, slaves being hobbled as a matter of course because their new owners knew that the treatment they would inflict on the slaves would be so horrific that anyone in their right mind would run and they didn't want them to get too far.  So, which slave do you want to be? The one that has sold himself into slavery, who can expect to be treated with respect even though he may be worked quite hard, who is still allowed contact with his friends and family when there is time for it? Or, the one who has been taken against his will, forced into slavery, or who was born into it, who either leaves behind the family he has or is raised up with a family that he knows he can derive no comfort of hearth and home from, since his mother, father, sisters, wife, daughters and sons can all be sold or worked to death, as can he; who is going to be treated as  a mindless piece of meat who must sit in silence as his wife and daughters are raped before his eyes, who has no comfort, no joy, with whippings for no reason but that someone hates him, with no solace but that soon you will fall down from your burden and the dogs will be well fed?If you think about it, and you still want to be a slave like in the old south, I don't want to know you. I have no use for slaves who want to be tortured, abused, maimed, raped or killed. I have a lot of use for slaves who want to give of their time and energy, who enjoy domestic activities and are going to be happy to be working for me.To me, 'Safe, Sane and Consensual', really means something. 'Safe' means that even the slaves has rights. They will never be starved, never have their body parts lopped off, never be burnt with cigarettes, never turned into some human monstrosity through burns or tattoos or plastic surgery that no one else would want, never be beaten without good cause; and they do have some say in what happens to their body, being allowed to choose if they will be marked or altered, because it is still their body. Their body must work for their owner, but, they have total right to its safety, if not its comfort. 'Sane' means that everyone in the relationship is dealing with the fact that they are both humans, of whatever sex they were born, and in a country where slavery is illegal so that everyone involved is aware that this is by mutual consent, and everyone is aware that there is a difference between public life, family life, and life at home in private. 'Consensual' means that the slave has a great deal of say, in entering into the relationship, of how it will go; and, the owner will provide periodic times in which the slave may have the right to ask for release or changes, even after the point where the contract is signed. It is not just to be consensual going in, but, it must remain consensual.Now, we all have differing view points on what is and is not sane, obviously. For some of us, the idea of being whipped, at all, is sheer madness; whereas, some of us see no problem with the removal of genitalia. I would say, in general, what is sane is what would, in the end, leave the slave a person of sound mind and body who is capable of caring for themselves, should the need arise, in case something befalls the owner. I would also say sane is realizing that property that has been fed good, nutritious meals, gotten adequate sleep more often than not, and is comfortable enough that the cold and heat are not affecting its ability to work, is property that is going to work harder, faster, and better. I don't believe any of us have a disagreement on what the word consensual means, though - and that is something that I see ignored by so many person, on their profile or in their speech with me. 'Slaves' want to be taken, tortured against their will. Well, that is just no part of bdsm.You have to willingly enter into it, and, once you have, you may get a lot of surprises of the painful, pleasurable, boring, tedious, cold, hot, wet, and/or sensory deprived sort. Those things will be 'against your will' as you will not ask for them and you will be 'forced' into them, if you do not move into them gracefully, on your own, because that is exactly what you signed up for. Therefore, since you do want it, it is not against your will, in actual fact. Safe, well, that's a harder call. Slaves don't necessarily want to feel safe, and their owners often like to make them feel unsafe; but, there is a balance, a point wherein the slave can feel unsafe - having no idea what will happen - while still being safe, knowing that certain things will never happen. For instance, there would be a crop, a paddle, nipple clamps, some candles and matches, and a few assorted other items layed out where the slave can see it and then a blindfold is put on the slave. It knows something is probably going to happen, and it will probably involve at least one, maybe many, of those items. But, which items? When? How will they be used? Therein lays that feeling of not being safe. Yet, it knows that it will not be killed or maimed, so, it is safe.This is a very serious thing, to enter into slavery. Notice, I do not say to be a slave, or to own a slave, but, to enter into slavery. It doesn't matter which role you take up, slave or owner, it is still a very serious thing. Anyone who enters into it would do well to give it much thought, and to choose the slave or owner who is best suited to their style of living, their way of thinking. Which means, they should know what their needs are, versus what their wants are, versus what they will put up with, versus what they cannot do.A slave should know what he has to offer. He should not make bold claims that he cannot back up, and he may not want to reveal his full  monetary worth at once, lest the owner accept him out of greed rather than out of compatibility. He should not lie, but, he does not need to reveal to someone, who is still a stranger after all, the extent of his property. It is enough to tell them what assures them that the slave is capable of earning enough to make sure that he is not a burden upon the owner.  Therefore, the owner should likewise know what they need the slave to be capable of giving. This is not just about money, however. This is about all aspects. It is easy to feel desperate, driven by your need, and come to a point where you are agreeing to things that, in more rational moments, you would never want to live with. Yes, equally for those who would own as those who would be owned, because the need is the same even if the actions it drives you toward are not. So, it is important to know all these needs, wants, desires, dislikes, and what would absolutely break your spirit, and to look for compatibility, most especially, in the 'needs' and in the 'breaking of spirit' categories, since, of course, are what affect you most. The other things, they are great, but, if someone fulfills all of them but only while expecting of you the things that will destroy you, they are not going to be a good fit, are they? Please, please, really think about this, all of this. You don't have to agree with every word, and I am sure most of you will not, but, I hope you will consider it, all the same, and, for your own safety and the possibility of your own future fulfillment, as well as simply to stop wasting your time talking to the wrong people, study yourself and come to know what you really seek. And, I hope you then, armed with more accurate knowledge, find your happiness.