Handcuffs

'As a child, I can remember liking to be the robber
when playing cops and robbers so I would be the one wearing the
handcuffs ....'

The above is an excerpt from the profile of some submissive sort.Now, this should tell you something about me. See, years and years ago, I had started to tell someone, who claimed to be dominant, when they asked about how I played as a child, a very similar thing, in that it was how I liked to be the robber. In fact, I started to tell it to more than one person, over the years.

They always interrupted me and told me the reason I liked to be the robber was because I am submissive, because I wanted to be handcuffed and caged, that my true nature recognized this even though my upbringing was against it, because .. blah blah blah ..

Arrogance, boys and girls, is not dominance; and, it was arrogance, their need to appear dominant, that stopped them from listening and started them spouting nonsense. Here, however, is the truth that they missed.

As I child, I can remember liking to be the robber, when playing cops and robbers ... because the robber was under less constraint of rules, more free to pursue his own will. Cops had laws and rules they had to follow, made by another. The robber had taken itself outside of those rules. Besides which, how fun it is to surprise the police, when they think they have you and you turn the tables and handcuff them,instead.

That's what they get for failing to properly assess the strength of the perp, and assuming that they are the stronger one in the relationship.

Suddenly, it doesn't sound so submissive, does it?

Let that be a lesson to you, Doms. More times than not, you should just let the other person finish answering your question.