Miscellaneous Forum Posts:

RE: D/s and exclusivity. - 8/20/2010 7:33:53 PM    MistressArletta Vanilla Posts: 4 Joined: 8/16/2010 Status: offline D/s exclusivity, in my experience, has always been the choice of D not s; but, if it's that important to s, they need to state it when the contract is being negotiated. In my case, s stands for slave, not sub, and my slaves will be non-sexual in their service to me, so there is no reason for exclusivity. In fact, if I were exclusive with one, it would just mean more work for him and worse service for me. And, the various s's, their non-exclusivity will be by reward for good service, not at their whim. It is that way because I want it that way, and if they wanted it some other way, they should have opted to be D and looked for their own s. javascript:void(opener.AddText('[sm\=domme.gif]')); self.focus(); Though, there is this one fellow, who if I were to get together with him, he would still be a bit s, but, only submissive and only to me, and that would be exclusive to me and, sexually and romantically, I would be exclusive to him; whilst still owning and domming the slaves and he would also be domming the slaves ... the little s.. lut. (in reply to sodsta)

RE: Emotional sadism - 8/21/2010 9:44:38 AM

MistressArletta Vanilla Posts: 4 Joined: 8/16/2010 Status: offline

quote: Humiliation in a scene is hot; causing uncertainty, frustration and feeling unbalanced in the relationship itself is not hot. If you feel your partner does not care for you, there is nothing left. Amen to that! Keep trying to explain that to slave wanna-be's, who keep trying to tell me they want a cruel, harsh, unrelenting Mistress. I mean, if a Mistress is like that 24/7 she's not even in control of herself and she's certainly not interested in owning them as propety. She's just a bitch out to destroy someone else! (in reply to sexyred1)

RE: Such a thing as a "boring" submissive? - 8/22/2010 7:01:22 PM

MistressArletta Vanilla Posts: 4 Joined: 8/16/2010 Status: offline

Boring submissive: Oh God, yes! What made it boring? A tiresome and tedious need to be on display and fishing for compliments at all turns (Should I wear my tight orange shorts for you? You can see everything. You'll love to tease me in the pool); an inability to understand any jokes or teasing; and, being too concerned with what some strangers across the way, who weren't even paying attention thought, to do one little silly thing in public. Not an illegal thing, not a sexual thing, just a silly thing. That was all roled into one submissive - and, yes, I know I spelled roled that way, and I did it on purpose. The clamoring for attention, demanding all of a Dom/Domme's time and energy, that's really boring. Just a selfish "subbie" with no conversation. (in reply to Aileen1968