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Kindly do read my profile and show some consideration for who I am and how things are expected to progress. I may make exceptions to my rules, but, that doesn't mean you are welcome to do so.
Call me Mistress Daelan, because, like that legendary blacksmith, I am powerful, and, I will shape you to my whim and will, causing you to become what I will have you be.
Do not ask what I am into, what I will do with you, why I wish to own slaves, what experience I have, or, if I wish to chat or receive a photograph. It is you who must answer my questions and demands. If I wish something from you, or to impart information, you shall be notified.
Everything mentioned, above or below, is about working toward a meeting and a full time, live-in (or live conveniently close by) position. If you are a discerning person, who is sincere in their desire to be owned, you will read, and you will not balk.
It should not take a true slave several weeks of chatting, to make a decision. Nor should a Mistress spend her time rehashing what she has already written about.
This is not about marriage, raising children together, romance, or anything of that nature. You are a slave on a block, and, like a dog in a pound, you should be grateful for whomever is willing to give you a decent life, fit for your ilk.
You will pay a fee for my time before you receive any significant portion of it After reading the journal entries, you may send me one email, only, to request the email address to which you should make a Pay Pal payment. I will delete all other emails received, unread.
Understand this. I am not charging these fees for the sake of earning money through BDSM. My goal is to judge and accept ownership of a slave, as quickly as possible with a minimum wastage of time and effort, and, with a maximum of privacy and discretion.
I am not offering you a good time for your money, but, I am testing you to see if you can and will pay attention, follow orders, and actually serve.
On a different note, for those who wonder why I am posting several journal entries on certain subjects, and, why I am not, instead, using the forum, where more people who might be interested could see the posts, it is because when I try to use the forum, I get this message, every time:
The password you input was incorrect.
Note: password is case-sensitive.
You can either try again or reset your password.
go back?
I have no wish to change my password, nor do I see any reason that I should, since I am quite aware that I have been using it correctly, up to now. If I hadn't been, I wouldn't be here, typing at you.
If you've read this, you may send me a message that says 'torpid steak bites'. It will say nothing else and you will not expect a reply. |
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Here's a thought, for you to ruminate upon:
You want to be a slave. You are not a slave, because, you are not owned, but, you want to be a slave. So, I take your hand and I say, 'You will be my slave. Come.' and, now you are a slave. Is that really you having the power? Is that really you making the decision? If that is true, that it is you, then, take your own hand, tell yourself that you are a slave, give yourself orders, and, see where it gets you. Now, when I say I need a slave, don't ask me 'What's in it for me'', because, if you want to be a slave, you already know. What is in it for you is the fulfillment of your desire to be a slave. |
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Let us discuss etiquette, shall we? It seems it is a much needed discussion, as this site seems to be rife with those who have no, or, at least very little understanding of the social graces. For instance, I have seen many persons, of various genders and inclinations, proffering up their naye naye regions, first thing.
This is something which they are asked not to do, by whomever runs this lovely site. As such, it points out several issues of where bad etiquette is employed. First off, the poster of such photos is obviously not being considerate of the wishes of the owners of this site; secondly, they are being inconsiderate of the sensibilities of other members of the community; thirdly, they are showing a woeful lack of self control, which tells me that their problems with etiquette won't end at the belt line; fourthly, they are displaying a woeful lack of self esteem, engaging in bad etiquette, even to themselves; fifthly, the site owners, by not enforcing their own rule, are showing incredibly bad manners to everyone who would like not to see such photos; and, sixthly, seventhly, and, eighthly everyone who would like not to see those photos, is showing bad manners to themselves, others, and the site owners, by not reporting this tawdry infraction, when they come upon it.
No, this is not a campaign against such people. I'm just saying, it is all bad etiquette. Too, so is the sheer number of messages I get from people, who have not even read my profile. On a site dedicated to dominance and submission, to not read a profile, then to express interest, is an outright lie. Perhaps on a cybering or sex only site, it might be something different. So, first of all, that they did not read my profile is rude, secondly that they messaged me without reading it and pretended they had is rude (x 2, in fact), and, thirdly, that I very specifically give rules of communication and they ignore them (whether through failing to have read them or otherwise) is rude.
I wrote a nice little compliment to a submissive, but, told him this in no way means he is allowed to contact me, and, that rules are rules. He replied back, after I pointed out that it would not be welcome, and, it was not even to say thank you for the compliment. It was simply to tell me that rules are made to be broken. Which, again, proves my point about submissives and ego, but, in no way inspires me to further acquaintance with him.
More on etiquette, something beyond simply pointing out the foibles of site participants, will be written later. For now, I toddle off to find some chicken soup and, perhaps, a good movie to watch while enjoying my meal. |
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Miscellany:
There is another reason behind the fees, of course, and it is this: time wastage. I don't have time to waste. Do you? Thought not.
Well, here is one way I determine who wants to waste my time and who does not; because, if you are only looking to nut and go, you will not pay for the privilege of emailing me.
Yet, if you are serious about wanting to be a slave, owned by a woman who knows what she is doing, you will recognize this as a method of controlling the amount of time and energy wasted, and, you will pay.
Look to your left. See my interests list? Every single thing possible is listed as something I live for. This is not strictly the truth, but, is effective in dissuading slaves from trying to falsely pretend we have similar interests, since they have no bloody clue what my interests are, outside of owning slaves. Nor will they, ever, except by serving me.
You see, part of my old-fashioned virtues is my belief that it is the owner who chooses the slave, and, then, the slave, over time, comes to know their owner, after service has begun. Therefore I examne you, question you, order you, test you out, and, if I find your ablities and limits acceptable, I might just allow you to serve me. If that is not acceptable to you, do not contact me.
The persons who will appear on my friends list are those I have played with online or offline and are aware that they may tell you anything about me, that is not directly related to you being able to find me.
If you have read this, you may send me a message that says 'Green topped spinach goes meow.' It will say nothing else. You will not expect a response.
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The rules of Offline meeting:
You will need a hood, that covers over your eyes so that you may not gaze upon me; handcuffs with a safety release; you may bring other toys or instruments of discipline. What else you bring will be examined and we will discuss why you brought them, as part of my judging whether or no I wish to own you as a slave.
You will travel to where I tell you to travel to and rent a room at a certain hotel. You are a slave, so, it will, of course, be low quality and of little expense. Since it may be necessary for you to have a passport, be aware that this location will be somewhere in America. These expenses may vary a great deal, depending on how far I am from where I wish to meet you. Do not assume you know anything about where I live, since I may be in the area on business or for pleasure, as well as it being a possible location for my home.
If it is required that I travel somewhere specific to meet you, you will pay for the travel expenses of both myself and my slave boy, who is there for my protection. Therefore, it is better for you that you show up where I tell you to meet me.
Once there, you will call me. When I answer and tell you I am on my way, you will sit on the bed, back to the door, door unlocked, and wait for me. One of my slave boys will come in before I do, to make sure you are not laying in wait for me or trying to sneak peeks at me.
He will test the hood you've brought, to make sure you can't see through it, and, watch you put it on. When you are ready, I will enter. I will place the handcuffs you have brought with you upon you, after he leaves the room.
During this interview, I may touch you or order you to touch me; you will be questioned; you will be ordered to perform tasks; you may be subjected to trials of discipline and pain endurance. Your merits as a slave will be judged on your obedience, and, your honest responses.
This may take an hour, it may take all night.
You may be ordered to purchase food and drinks; it may be that you will be ordered to have them there when I arrive.
When it is time for me to go, I will wipe away my fingerprints, walk you closer to the door, and call my slave boy back in. He will come in and wait for me to walk away to a convenient meeting spot for us (me and him). Then, he will release you from the handcuffs.
You will return home, or to your business, and wait for me to contact you.
The same basic instructions apply for offline meetings, if it is a one-time fling or a prelude to potential full time, live-in ownership, or, something in-between. There may be some variation, at my whim, of course.
Yes, I am serious. Yes, I have references, but, they will not tell you who I am, where I am located, or, what I look like, in any identifying feature sort of way, either.
If you've read this, you may send me a message that says 'beaveriffic dog trials'. It will say nothing else, and, you will not expect a response.
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I am only here for future ownership of very serious slaves. Be aware that my height, age, weight, and location will change on this site, as I see fit.
If you are truly a slave, and, you are relocatable, then you are not going to want to choose to serve me by judging my looks, age, or location, but, by coming to know my personality and ability.
Even when it is time to meet, you will not be allowed to see me, until and unless I decide you are worthy. You will not know my address or my face, my real name, or anything else about me that is not strictly necessary, until I have chosen you and installed you in my home, IF then.
If you've read this, you may send me an email that says 'turquoise gopher'. It will say nothing else, and, you will not expect a reply.
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To the natural slave, I believe I should say something, to set your understanding apart from others, for I have not written this profile specificaly for you, yet, it is you who are my concern. You see, you are my counterpart.
So, when you read, below, and, you see the demands made, it may sound bad to you, having different sensibilities and more of a need for caution than others might. You are used to being scammed, scorned, having your time wasted. You don't want it to happen, again.
Well, as I said, I am your counterpart. That is why things are laid out, the way they are laid out. I cannot make exceptons for you, since I have to meet you, before discerning your true nature. Yet, I can promise you that if it is your true nature, then, you are whom I am seeking, and, if we are not suited for the long term, at least we will do no harm in the meeting.
So, for the others, the message is meant to be one of explaining rules and setting obstacles to prevent them from coming into my life. For you, the message is, show me a little proof and I might justl show you the world that you can live in.
If you've read this, you may send me an email that says 'tangerine dichotomy'. It will say nothing else, and, you will not expect a reply.
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Two exceptions to the rule:
Dated: 8/30/11 1:17 PM
nice journal
From an older submissive, with a fine, short blend of interests, that include many vanilla ones, and, many that are about having a giving, sharing nature. No photo. His profile is about wanting to find an owner, but, one who he can share a life with.
Dated:8/30/11 2:06 PM
the biggest scammers write the biggest amount of bullshit. Fuck off and die you cunt. Stay poor lowlife shit
From an older submissive, with a very long list of interests, almost all of which are related to fetish play, and, even the vanilla interests are related to solitary activities or activities about taking great risks. His photo is not of himself, but, is one that is designed to lure ladies in and suggest a few specific sexual activities, and, his profile is fully written to stroke his own ego.
So, I read both of these, instead of just deleting them unread, because, one was very nice and deserved a response, and, the other one deserved to be reported for its rudeness, then saved to put on other sites where fair warning will be given as to his true character.
This, by the way, is proof positive as to what I have written about egos of submissives, the second message that is. This was the first and only message between us. I was not asking him for anything, and, was, in fact, quite clear that I didn't even want to hear from him. Yet, his ego was wounded that I had rejected him, just as if I had personally attacked him, simply by stating the rules under which I can be contacted.
Imagine the ego it takes to think t hat I have singled him out for insult, when I hadn't even noticed his existence. lol And, now, he is reading this, and getting it stroked. It's what men like him do. |
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True slaves, as discussed below, thrive when beset by limitations. Living in the 'real' world is burdensome. They are not obeying, with an eye toward a reward, but, their reward is in being allowed to obey. They are souls caught up in yearning need to surrender.
Some people identify themselves as slaves, but, they are in it for purely sexual reasons. These people can and will submit, they can be a lot of fun, but, they are not true slaves. They usually, in fact, are quite capable of handling the responsible of their life.
They usually have decent employment, degrees and diplomas, and, nice, neat little lives, that are completely seemly by the standards of whatever society they are immersed in, or, have come from. Outside of the sexual surrender, in fact, they are generally tedious, to anyone who is not just like them. Fortunately for them, almost everyone around them is just like them, except for the aberrant sexual cravings.
So, they seek, they find, they submit, their needs are quieted, and, off they happily trot, back to the world that spawned them, where, if they are Americans, they will probably attend a ball game with their family, or, watch one on tv, have some microwaved nachos, and, enjoy their normality. SUV's and Mini-vans will clutter their driveways, and, their children will be tucked away, safely in bed, having been duly warned of sex perverts (with only a slight feeling of guilt tinging the mind of the sex slave), and, drift off in slumber, with visions of Road Rage 2 dancing merrily throughout their dreams. Everything is normal. Yes, the whip marks hurt, and, their butt hole is sore, but, everything else is normal.
Some people call themselves slaves, but, don't even want to be human. They want to be an animal, or, perhaps an end table. These people can be fun additions to your home, part time or full time, if you have the money to support another person, and, the desire to be use them in this manner. After all the Pharaoh did have his cup bearer, so, why shouldn't you? Still, they are not true slaves, because, while they serve, their craving is to be used as whatever they are pretending to be. They are submissives, acting out a role, and, it strokes their ego, quite well, when they are being used and praised as a great little filly, a wonderful ottoman, or, what have you.
Many persons want to be slaves, but, when all is said and done, their ego wins out over their desire to be owned. Sometimes they can't even submit at all, as a result. More often, these are the slaves who show up, make bold promises, maybe even move in quickly, submit fully, then are gone in a whirlwind of chaos. They do not learn to release their ego. Maybe they cannot. These can usually be recognized by tales of how they had a Mistress, or a Master, but, it ended. 'She decided to move on.'
Oh, really? So, you were doing all the chores, sexually satisfying her, paying all her bills, and, she decided she wanted more out of life? Like what? Like to have room to talk, which she never did, considering your ego was taking up all the space? Yeah, I thought so! Wanting to be a slave, but, being unable to accept that someone else is in charge, does not make you a slave! If you recognize yourself in this description, find yourself a Pro Dom/me, is my suggestion, because, you are not suited - not yet - to serve in a relationship.
True slaves may also be referred to as 'natural slaves'. They are born with more reserve, and a sense of being different, removed from the world. As a child, they have shown a desire to be the teacher's pet, not to earn a reward, but, out of a desire to serve the authority figure in the room; they may have followed after their mother, asking to be allowed to help clean. They know two things, early on: They do not quite fit in with the world, and, they want to help. Their desire is to help whomever comes by, and, it is only through experience that they learn to be more discerning. Most natural slaves have been abused, some horribly abused.
Yes, so have a lot of other people. The thing is, a natural slave is not choosing to submit, but, rather the slave is forcing himself not to submit, hoping for someone to show that they have the ability to see their submission as a virtue, instead of a weakness to be exploited, so that they can relax into their true nature, and, obey.
For a natural slave, serving is more of a spiritual decision. It is done in faith, not by ego, and, is a fulfillment of destiny. When this slave makes the statement that they are willing to disappear from the world or that the is willing to surrender all control of their life, it is meant.
Socially, these slaves are humble, whatever office they have attained to. There is a real need to be of service to others, and, what they seek in their dominant are qualities hat can be trusted and respected, not just feared. The fear they feel comes from a longing to please, and, that is the only fear that is needed to control them. When these slaves say that they are an 'it', they mean it. This is a part of who they are, a large part of their personality, which they accept.
This is not low self esteem. They do not feel they are worthless, anymore than they feel they are worth more than anyone else. They feel they are, and, what they are, and, that they must serve. They feel they are meant to be owned, that they are made for humble servitude, and, they like it that way.
If you've read this, you may send me an email that says 'syncopated squirrel infusion'. It will say nothing else, and, you will not expect a reply. |
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Are you a slave? Would you like to be part of a real, legitimate consensual, extended family of brother and sister slaves? To be purposed or re-purposed to obey me? To serve in ways big and small? To be found to be of use?
As an owner, I hold the interest of slaves as my paramount objective. leaving the slave free to accept total ownership and obedience to me. This is the only way to truly bring meaning into the life of one who craves to serve in honest humility and faith.
Learn obedience, submit to experiencing life. Relinquish your ego. Accept your purpose. Come together, right now, over me.
Of course, some slaves do not know the answers to the questions posed. They do not know if they have it in them to be, in fact, slaves at all, much less what sort of slave they might become.
Let us start, then, with this: How is reality treating you? Do you feel like you are living your life or waiting for it to start? Do you get a little tremble in your knees, when the postal clerk gestures for you to step lively to the counter, because, they have the knowledge and authority of the government behind them and it is up to them to mail or not to mail for you, regardless how much you pay them? Or, do you view them as people just doing their job. Think about it.
What is the difference between a submissive, a submissive that is a slave, and, a slave who submits?Do you know? Well, read on!
A submissive is someone who enjoys choosing to submit. They crave it, but, they can get through the day, most days, without it. A submissive slave is someone who needs that submission to occur more often, or, more deeply. They still can go abut their day job, get the dishes washed, and, lead a normal life, with BDSM fun on the side. A slave that submits, is a totally different creature, by feel and by actions.
Slaves may appear to be highly competent, together individuals or they may appear to be slobby, sloppy messes, or, anywhere in-between. It is not their outward appearance that defines them as slaves, but, their inward unbalanced equilibrium.
You see, he submissive can live a 'normal' life, but, a slave is unable to. They feel the craving to submit, to be used, the way a junkie craves drugs, or the infinitely depressed crave to tear into their wrist.
It is a constant struggle not to go mad and do something illegal, just to get what is needed. They stand in front of their neighbor, who is yelling at them to clean up their lawn, and, their knees want to buckle, and, they want to beg for forgiveness. It is a dire embarrassment to get a speeding ticket, because, they have failed to follow the laws, they have offended the officer and wasted his time.
Submissives submit conditionally, and, that conditional submission is all about aggressive egos, pursuing their own agenda. Slaves can fake aggression, but, they only really feel it in defense of another's property or person. A submissive needs to give of their flesh, time, energy, for differing degrees of time and depth of service, to feel physically and emotionally satisfied. A slave is in need of giving themselves in order to feel that they are fulfilling their purpose in the world.
If you beat a submissive, and, they don't like it, they will tell you to stop. If you beat a slave, and, they don't like it, they will beg to know what they can do to make you happy with them, again. Or, they will simply accept it and learn to like it, without thought of trying to stop you, unless they feel real damage to your property taking place.
Submissives work by vanity, which is why they love humiliation - most of them- since, you are spending oh so much time attempting to tear them down and prove to them that they are worthless. Yet, if you are spending three hours to make that point, giving yourself tendinitis from all the whip wielding, you must think they are worth a great deal. It is a form of reverse psychology, that they are using on you, to stroke their own ego, by allowing you to attempt to tear down what they know is strong within them.
Slaves hate humiliation play. Slaves are already filled with humility, where the submissives vanity is stored instead. If you tell a slave that they are worthless, they may believe you and do themselves harm. They may break down and weep, feeling lost in their worthlessness, bereft of hope, since they do not know how to do more than try and in their trying they have been found to be worthless. Humiliating a slave is about as appropriate as sexually molesting a badger. It will do nothing but damage everyone involved.
Submissives are autonomous beings who make a conscious choice to be a part of your life and choose to what extent it will occur. A slave is an extension of your person, who must be told to what extent autonomy must still be present in their life.
Interestingly, while most people in BDSM are seeking out what they believe to be their opposite in temperament, in fact, they are seeking out the one that is most similar to them, when it comes to egos.
A Dominant with a vain ego does not seek out a slave, with no ego, because, there is nothing there to incite the desire to abuse, to dominate. Slaves are boring when you wish to beat someone, kick them, call them a pig, then share them with your friends. You cannot humiliate them. They will either accept it or fall apart under the pressure. For it to be exciting, you need a vain little submissive, who has limits to push, and an ego to chip away at.
Dominants who are basically beneficent, however, do well with slaves who are humble. They do not want the challenge of a submissive, who wants to be forced, or 'forced' to every action. They just want someone sweet and compliant, to do what they want done. Slaves, to them, are cherished possessions, which is all to the good, since real slaves, the people who are not doing well as free citizens at all, need to be cherished by an owner.
If you've read this, you may send me an email that says 'life loves time'. It will say nothing else, and, you will not expect a reply. |
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