2/19/2011 1:32:03 AM |
Discipline is not about destruction, it is about refinement. If you believe this to be true, read on.
I seek slaves, not subs. No matter what you currently call yourself, follow my description, which will be generalized, so, pick the one you fit best:
Sub: 'Primarily sex and fetish driven'; Usually wants to feel worthless, treated like an animal, tortured, abused, controlled, has fetishes to be fulfilled, wishes to be taken, often referred to as pain slut, sex toy, puppy, pony, sexual submissive, toilet. Words associated with subs: force, take, control, steal, use, abuse, degrade, destroy, defile, brat, lack of self control, weak, used, controlled.
Subs need to know the rules, so they will know their limitations, how far they can go. Their rules are very rigid, because they are part of a game. They seek those who are the counterpoint to their fetishes.
Slave: 'Primarily service-oriented, driven by a need to help others.' Accepts rules of others, that make sense, but, is fully aware of its humanity. Has no feeling of inferiority, unless it fails as a slave. Will have definite limits because damage affects its ability to serve. Words associated with slaves: give, care, do, make, usage, serve, service, work, self-governance, control, duty, long-suffering, upbuilding, trust, strong, dominant, considerate, self controlled, bold, owned, connected.
Slaves need to know the rules, in order to best understand how to serve you. The rules for slaves are more fluid, as the emphasis is not on strict obedience, but, on best service. Obedience is important, that is, but, getting the work done more so. They seek those who match them well enough that they can be happily of use.
These points are not negotiable:
You may call me Mistress, Mistress Arletta, Ma'am, or Miss.
Should you need to relocate, your relocation must be legal, will not be by marriage to me.
You must have an income of at least moderate means.
You will be used for work of all sorts, and, sometimes for entertainment.
You will show yourself to be obedient, compliant, hard working, and loyal. .Sex with your Mistress is not an option.
Full time chastity is optional
Other than those points, I am open-minded and willing to hear of hard limits and needs. Keep in mind, such things as: 'I am religious and attend meetings once a week', 'I have an allergy to ...', 'I am an alcoholic, so I need to serve someone who will never force me to serve or drink alcoholic beverages.' are needs.
'I'd love it if you'd put me in chains.' is not a need. I may ask about your desires, but, since your main desire will be to serve me, they will not be of primary consideration to either of us.
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2/18/2011 10:21:45 PM |
Eventually, when dealing with doms, they are going to get dommy, and, then, usually, they get tedious and say blustery things that should never be said to someone who is just never going to be intimidated by then. Because, trust me, I don't frighten easily, and, I am not impressed when peacock feathers get ruffled. If you scared me, bad enough that I felt I had to do what you said as a result, I'd kill you in your sleep, dig a very unshallow grave, and drop your body in with some quick lye; walk out and disappear into the world;, and, or, otherwise, be gone.
Therefore, it is in the best interest of doms to learn how to be dominant, instead of trying to dominate. If you dominate me, it's because it amuses me to let you do it. If you are dominant, you will be using your brain, and, clear-sighted reason. I do not follow anyone without reason. Now, hush, babies! If you want mama to take care of you, and give you the tit, stop fussing like your colicky, instead.
lol
Earlier this week, a 27 year old was writing to me, telling me I am beautiful, angling after being my slave. We even talked on FB. However, he failed his test. Men who find women who look like me attractive are numoerous. Men who have the balls to admit it, in public, are few. I have no use for people who are ashamed of their passions.
Unless their passions are for that whole toilet thing, small children, dogs, etc. Then they should be ashamed, as it is a health risk, or, it hurts someone in some other fahion. Causing black plagues and children to grow up to be socially diseased serial killers is something quite worth being ashamed of. Having a thing for older, bigger women is just one of those things. And, so is lying about it, if you really don't have a thing for them.
I am now, quite seriously, looking for a place to buy. Since there were no slaves involved in its purchase, it will not be a home for slaves. That does not mean none can ever be there, but, it does mean there will be no slave quarters, or places to put cages, or any of that stuff. That's just the way life works. It's going to, most likely be, either a small 2 bedroom, 1 bath place or a 2 bedroom, 2 bath place. There will be other people living there for now. And, I am very confused as to which I would prefer, so far, because two bathrooms is always a better idea than one, but, but, but ... the other one is so much cuter in the photos. |
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2/16/2011 8:32:28 AM |
I gained a new admirer, yesterday, as in, literally, someone who is now on my list of Admirers. Strangely, he does not admire me. I am fairly certain he doesn't even mildly like me, and, that I am nothing more than a source of amusement, mild amusement.
This is a bit of a bummer, in that, once again, it is proven true: there are the people that I could be interested in, and, the people who are interested in me, but, never the twain shall meet. There is always something fundamentally wrong with the people who like me, though, sometimes, it is only that they are the wrong sex, age, or, too far away. So, it is not that I only attract shallow people and the criminally insane .. but, mostly, I attract shallow people and the criminally insane. Or, they are people who 'like me', because, they have badly misinterpreted me, and, think I am someone else.
So, this is the slight bummer, nothing too serious. I had written this journal entry, about the sort of man I'd like to meet, and, not too long after, I get this notice of alleged admiration. And, I look, find a profile of a man who has written this beautiful thing that is so much like my feelings, and, what I think, say, and, write, often, about love. His profle says that he loves writing, too.
So, there was a vague possibility that he had read the journal entry and recognized himself in there, somewhere, and, a bit more of one that he just enjoyed the writing, and, noticed that writing was important to me, as well; and, or, maybe it was another person who simply enjoyed the profile, definition of things, etc. That happens a lot.
But, no. Apparently, I do not register as female. Just someone who is experiencing an interesting plight. Which, really, is what book marks are for. One should not be on someone's favorites list, unless, there is something that makes them actually favor you.
Such is life.
Today, I made an appointment to appeal attorney fees and such, for matters related to my son, who is mentally ill and suffering from neurological issues, and, yet, can't get any help from the various agencies, but, can get arrested for failure to get the help he needs. This is fairly typical of life, as I know it. Lots of people ready to pass judgment and be amused by plights, very few people willing to understand or be helpful.
So, glad, then, Sir, that you feel entertained by it all.
xxx
In the meantime, I have met another little slave boy, who is relocatable, and, who is a blend of something in-between someone i'd like to hang out with all night, at a late night coffee shop and discuss the finer points of ... everything, a humble slave, and, someone who would enjoy the pursuits of my daughter and her friends, more; including, that he is rather in-between our ages. Closer to her age, but, still, bordering on proper male adulthood. Nice to talk to, polite, unfortunately very nice to look at, but, in general, a hopeful prospect.
Notice, again, please, how I did not mention money. Now, those of you who simply must keep writing about how awful I am, how I am only in it for the money, can, kindly, saunter off to a corner and blow yourself. As, I have said, and, shall keep saying, 'Yes, money is important, as it is very hard to live in this society without it. However, it is not the factor that leads me to choose or reject a slave, unless, it is a matter of there being none (because, I don't have enough to pay for my needs, at this present time, much less pay for the needs of the slave), or, unless, him having too much causes him to have an unpleasant bend to his personality.
And, that, really, is the point you keep missing. Most of the slaves I have rejected,where it was an issue of money, had quite a lot. They wanted to be abused by me draining it from them, or, to basically trade money for services, such as being whipped, or, they thought that they should be the only slave and they could make demands for me to change my limits to suit their needs. They were half right.
There is no reason to have two slaves, where one will do. So, if the slave is earning enough money that someone can be hired to perform tasks, the slave has some right to ask, going in, that they be the only slave; but, you know, someone still has to do the work, and there is a balance between wage earning and actually being useful in geting things done. I would prefer the slave who gets things done at home, more, even if he earns a great deal less. That is because I am far more busy than greedy. Deal with it!
Okay, that was not, entirely, truthful. in that, I do, indeed, have desires for things like custom made shoes (which, in fact, I need), nice clothing, pretty baubles, great faucets for the kitchen sink, a proper home, and, many other things that are related to a desire for more money in my life. However, mostly, it was untrue, because, while it is true that I am more busy than greedy, that is a secondary reason, at best. The main reason that I'd prefer the slave that gets more done at home, is, because, the emphasis on the relationship is different. For one thing, there is more time together, more intimacy, and, the slave is better appreciated for things related to what he is, rather than what he earns; and, he comes to know me for what I am, not just what I do with what he earns. It's a real, thriving, giving relationship, on both sides. The other is just ... money. It's nice, but, it's nothing compared to human interaction.
By the way, my laptop stopped charging, again, and, I don't know why. I am now using a very old lap top that I got from a thrift store. By 'got' I mean that I chipped in my last $13.00 and some odd cents, and, Dad chipped in $50.00. It is serviceable, though, the screen is dark, and, though it has no battery, so, I have to be careful to save my work, often. At least it connects to the internet!
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