Journal Entries for SlavesNotToys: Pt. 4

7/7/2011 9:28:35 AM

Good morning. I might just have air conditioning, today. Might. Since it got to be 115 degrees inside this house, at one point, and, it is seldom cooler than being outside, I look forward to the possibility.   The other night, we went to see Thor (me and my sister) at Crossroads. Telling you that, should give you locals another easy way to check my validity, by the way, if you read this sooner rather than later. It was actually a pretty nice movie.  Thing is, I think it would have been better with more story to it and being spread out into two movies, as that was rather a lot to be stuffed into one movie. So, as per usual, you get someone telling you there is emotional content, without seeing much by way of proof.   So, what I think, is that they should have had the first movie be his arrogant trodding about, well meaning but arrogant and immature, and, everything that led to his being tossed down to Earth. Then, another movie all about him trying to get back, and, inadvertently falling for a science geek.Of course, that may, mostly be, because I want to see more of the man who played Thor. He's really amazing to look at. I'm not even talking about lust - though I could see why that would happen - but, he's beautiful, and, has this amazing child-like innocence to his smile. Very good job on him being picked to play Thor, as it's pretty hard to believe he actually comes from the same planet as most of us.     'Not Tonight! A female orgasm is a powerful painkiller (because of the release of endorphins), so headaches are in fact a bad excuse not to have sex..' I just read on the profile of a man who claims to be dominant (I make no judgments as to if he is or no). It was part of a list of facts.  This is the one that I felt really needs to be addressed, as, it is wrong in that it fails to take certain things into account.  Come to think of it, there is another one like it, which mentions how having an orgasm helps menstrual flow, that can be addressed at the same time.    Now, it is very true that having an orgasm can work wonders for a female. However, the majority of sex that is had, except maybe with oneself, is not geared toward sexually exciting a woman to the point of orgasm, and, generally, it just gets frustrating and makes headaches worse, now being accompanied by a belly ache or other distress.   Women, you know, do get 'blue balls' too, except it happens up in their lower abdomen. Trapped blood flow from continual excitement that is never quite seen through. After a while of that, it becomes virtually impossible for them to have an orgasm, because, the body knows there is no point.     And, yes, I meant what I said about it not being geared toward women, and, yes, that is true even when the woman has a man that she can order to do this and this. ' This and this' is not the most exciting component of sex. Actual passion, desire for the woman instead of just the act, sweet and/or dirty talk, praises that have some basis in reality, pursuit that shows true desire, are for more important than a piston-like thrust or a willing tongue, especially since - sorry boys, but, it has to be said - most of you couldn't  screw your way out of a paper bag.     I've had sex with s-types, I've had sex with D-types.  Sex with vanilla people is generally better, as  they usually spend less time telling you how wonderful they are and how lucky you are to have them, and, more time at least pretending to find you attractive.  They don't make a lot of false promises, just the one that it will be good for you. So, yeah, sex with them is generally better.    There were two guys I had sex with, where I can honestly say it would have been good enough to clear up a headache, if, in both cases, a roommate hadn't kept interrupting by banging on the door and/or yelling at us, out of jealousy.  One of them, though, only would have worked the once, and, then, his true personality would have come out, anyway.  The other one, he was just a little sweetheart, who was always glad to see me, to the point of annoying any other woman he was talking with, at the point where I walked in the door.   And, there was one guy, who, without even thinking he was a D-type, managed to do horribly lovely things to my nerve endings, even though he lived several thousand miles away, wasn't talking dirty, didn't have a camera on, and, no one was touching themselves at all. He just had that sort of personality, and, I trusted him, loved him, and, he said one of those things that just smacks of inherent right to be bossy - the way friends and family have, and, sometimes, a lover.     Everyone else, no matter how technically good their actions were, were duds, because,  it was obvious they were only interested in flesh, and, flesh is boring, except as an accompaniment.  Kind of like the same way that most people who love barbecued beef or hot fudge sundaes, don't want just a bowl of the topping.    Now, there are techniques which make it more likely that sex will be fun, mind you, even when it is just boring flesh rubbing together. However, most people don't know the most important ones, when it comes to women, and, apparently, many people don't know some of the most important ones for men, either.    I can give you a hint: It has nothing to do with pounding, stretching, dilating, or, inflicting. And, it's not something that 'Only people of the same sex could know how to pleasure each other' with. I know. I've talked to enough of them to recognize rampant cluelessness.   It all goes back to thinking of others, understanding, and, choosing to pursue quality over quantity. If one's motivation is to give pleasure to the person one is with, and, one is allowed to play and be curious, one is far more likely to discover such things.    Unfortunately, sex has become mostly a selfish act, where even the alleged pursuit of another's pleasure is about racking up points for positions and techniques learned, rather than the enjoyable, lovely, sharing thing it should be.   Being engaged in lovely, enjoyable sharing, is good for the blood flow and helps prevent headaches.    Being involved in wild, kinky, enjoyable, lovely sharing does it, too.   Sex, just sex - that's just another reason to need to shower and have an STD check.